Picking apart

Opinions differ and when they differ between the prejudiced, conflicts arise. This status quo is enough for the vitriolic pick apart to commence. Swami Vivekananda says that, we just take one good point from our entire life and start comparing it with all the dark ones in some other person. Does that give any sense of satisfaction? Will that really make that person evil and the comparer good? Isn’t that an infantile behavior? It is said that when you point a finger at others, four fingers point back at you. There are so many aphorisms, adages, maxims, thoughts, axioms and quotations, whatever you call, on this. And people are not unaware about them. The populace is very well aware of the good as well as the evil. But all the rules, the laws, the thoughts, etc only apply till it’s the question of others. As soon as it comes over them, they forget all the idealism that they have learnt since their childhood and the evil sooner takes control of them. Nothing other than this can turn a person into a detractor, an extremist and start criticizing others. In such status quo, they are in a state of oblivion, what is good, what is the meaning of patience, what is the spelling of wisdom and where is the age-old sensibility then….? The only question is about one’s ego, prestige and self-respect. When these feelings spring up, one is bound to get belligerent and descend to any limits to knock down others.

Someone has verily said that – Nothing is wrong in this world, our thinking makes it. How beautiful and true this aphorism is! According to me, I am right and my friend is wrong. Whatever I say is absolutely right and my so very extreme thoughts, inadvertently makes my beloved friend wrong. I am so full of my own thoughts that I don’t even have a tiny space for my friend’s opinion. Ditto is the state of affairs with my friend.  If a cup is full of tea, you just can’t pour more of tea in it. If you do it the cup will only overflow. And this is exactly what happens in an argument following thoughts conflicts. Neither of the sides is ready to listen to their counterparts. Consider a situation when a white stands on white space and black stands on black space, both are camouflaged. Only they know where they themselves stand. Others simply can’t see them as they are blinded by the perfect illusionary camouflage. But when white stands on black space and vise-a-versa, both are visible. Now consider a situation where white stands on the black space together with black. The white knows that he is on black but he thinks that he is alone. He simply can’t see black standing with him. Now the question which rises is that why the white can’t see black when they both are standing on same black surface?  The answer to this question can be understood by a new concept of individuality.

If I stand for some time on my friend’s place, there is no guarantee that I will completely understand my friend’s opinions and point of view, because we have our own individualities that make us different. And we should be grateful for this same but unique quality in us because what ever is there in and around us is all only due to the individuality. All our past experiences and different milieu, affect this quality. Turn around and you will find that this ‘world is just awesome’ … a million thanks to individuality. I suffice it to say that, individuality results from unique thoughts and opinions. So why pick apart others?

Moral – Respect other’s opinions.